What is my life… never thought I’d hear a Ragtime version of Fancy.
WELCOME BACK TO BNN NEWS, YOUR UP-TO-THE-MINUTE SOURCE FOR EVERYTHING NEWSWORTHY. I’M BRIAN ANDROCONIA AND WE’RE HERE WITH RIVETING NEW UPDATES REGARDING THE DISAPPEARANCE OF FLOWER GH760, LAST SEEN IN THE HENDERSONS’ GARDEN EARLY TUESDAY MORNING. AUTHORITIES CAN’T CONFIRM IF THE FLOWER WAS CUT BY THE HENDERSONS THEMSELVES OR PICKED BY A PASSING STRANGER, NOR DID ANYONE SEE ITS REMOVAL, SO I’LL ACTUALLY JUST BE LISTING OFF NUMEROUS OTHER POSSIBILITIES RANGING FROM THE MILDLY LIKELY TO THE PATENTLY RIDICULOUS, INTERSPERSED WITH MANY INVENTIVE REPHRASINGS OF THE TWO CONCRETE DETAILS WE DO POSSESS, WHICH ARE BASICALLY THAT THERE USED TO BE A FLOWER AND NOW IT’S GONE, NONSTOP FOR THE FORESEEABLE FUTURE AND CALLING THOSE THINGS UPDATES. GOD IT’S A GREAT TIME TO BE A JOURNALIST.
this is my tumblr friend’s friend. she could really use your help.
> > donate to jen’s fund < <
seeing my friend in this state does not feel real. i never thought something like this would happen to someone i know, let alone to my closest friend. looking at this picture is really painful for me, but her and her family’s wellbeing may depend on the kindness of friends and possibly strangers like you, so getting her story out there is really crucial. even if you don’t have money to give, if you you wouldn’t mind sharing this, maybe one of your followers will donate. that could really add up! i’ve seen other success stories on tumblr. please, please help me make my friend a success story. this is so real to me.
my friend, jenevieve kim, was hit by a car while biking home on georgia tech campus. the police report states that the accident was in a 25 mph zone and witnesses claimed she flew thirty feet from the car, yet the driver refuses to take responsibility (says it’s “her fault”) and is paying nothing. she can’t weigh in on this, of course, because she remembers nothing of the accident, which is understandable considering she has a cracked skull, internal head bleeding, a broken leg, ribs, and a cracked hip among other expensive injuries. the cost for keeping her alive is estimated to be over $15,000.
i’m so grateful she’s survived, but she’s still in pretty awful shape. plus, she doesn’t have insurance. and her family is struggling as it is and won’t be able to help her. (she was previously helping them financially. btw, she’s 20.) jen is the hardest worker i know, a selfless friend, and was previously paying her own way through college. she was forced to quit her music business internship (her dream job) next semester because of this and won’t be able to attend school at all for a long time.
my friend is on her own with all of this. but i decided it doesn’t have to be that way. life itself isn’t fair by any means (see above. did i mention this happened the week after her birthday? like holy shit), but regardless there are still good people in this world. as a community, we can do everything we can to even the score. please help me take this off my friend’s plate so she can heal.
if you could consider sharing this with your followers or friends, jen’s loved ones and supporters will be forever grateful. every person who shares this will be personally thanked. i don’t care if this reaches a thousand notes (which i doubt), every kind stranger who supports my friend in any way deserves a personal thank you.
also, every single person who donates will receive a handmade gift. i don’t care if you’re all the way in korea. you will receive a handmade token of appreciation. there’s been 99 donators thus far; i (and a few of our friends) already started making a few things. they’ll be really cool, promise!
if you have any fundraising suggestions, words of encouragement, or would like to help in any way please feel free to contact me. thank you sincerely for taking the time to read jen’s story, and thank you to my followers, who will no doubt hear about this story for quite some time, for being so patient. i realize i was almost exclusively a k/j-horror blog previously, which makes this a bit more surreal for me.
thanks! please signal boost!
Every time the subject of dating and relationship advise comes up, I’m usually the first of my friends to state rather bluntly, “Don’t Ask Me!” Not that I won’t give my two-cents worth if asked, it’s just that I only HAVE two-cents worth of advise on the subject. (And only on a good day when rounding up.) I’m not one inclined towards intimate relationships. I enjoy being single. However, that doesn’t mean I haven’t had my fair share of doters, inquisitors, and “eternally hopefuls” (as I’ve come to dub some individuals) who were certain they were the ones to break my most torturous chains of solitude and melt my icy heart with their love, affection, and sheer determination (Since you, dear reader, can’t hear the tone of voice in that last half of the sentence, please read it in a humorous, theatric, and completely cliche-spoofing fashion.) Lately I’ve read and heard several accounts from my friends about how they’re so tired of the “nice guy excuse” and it got me thinking about all the “nice guys” that had at one time or other inquired after a closer relationship with me.
And guys, I’m sorry to say that if you ever, EVER say “but I’m a nice guy!” then you’re doing it wrong.
I like that I can read this post without obsessing. And I also agree, saying “I’m a nice guy” to a girl is the equivalent of whining about being single, as if it were the girl’s responsibility to solve that problem. Its childish.
If I could return a thought, directed at all the nice girls I asked out who weren’t interested, I’d say you can’t be too blunt. Guys, especially romantically-inclined “nice” guys, let hope & idealism override even the most obvious of signals. We’re remarkably slow to take a hint, as you’ve no doubt witnessed many times.
With that in mind, the kindest rejection should take the same approach as the gardener takes when weeding. If you don’t callously pull up the whole weed, roots and all, it’ll just grow back, and all that while the roots will get stronger. It seems counterintuitive, but the nicest way to reject someone is to be remorselessly clear about your rejection, right from the start. That’ll spare them wondering, and save them time in the long run.
Plus, you’ll have a much lower-maintenance friendship much more quickly. So, its a win-win.
Behind the Scenes at Simple
We recently published this post about how to budget with our Goals feature. It mentions a new feature we’ve recently released: Send Money Goals. We thought our Tumblr audience might be interested in hearing a little detail from the engineer who designed it. Meet Bar.
I’ve been working at Simple for a few months now. When I started out here, I was given the freedom to keep myself busy while I adjusted to my new workplace. I read through many of our outstanding technical issues and started keeping a list of the one’s I’d like to tackle.
One thing that really excited me was the idea of linking a goal to a payment, so that people could schedule payments and save up for them without destroying their Safe-to-Spend. I loved this idea (and personally required it for my own sanity) and got started immediately.
There’s more about how this feature works in the post, and it’s pretty effortless, but of course Bar knows how to hyper-optimize. Here’s how to be a power user, from the engineer herself:
What I like to do is to schedule payment-goals for all of my recurring bills, and then pause the big ones, making bi-weekly contributions to keep the score settled. This gives me a better idea of where I stand on my Safe-to-Spend. I even do this for my credit cards (even though they don’t even make it easy to find out where to send checks) because it’s easier to build this into my Safe-to-Spend on Simple’s end than to try to remember when the credit card companies are going to withdraw an automatic payment. Shoot, if your other banks’ websites are like mine, it’s hard even to find out when your payment will happen with them.
Thank you, Bar! Tumblr friends, let us know what you think of this!
Pretty neat idea! It would be cool if somehow Simple could know about my upcoming automatic payments, and save up for them, and automatically spend-from-a-goal for them… but that seems TOO magical.